Every Woman Loves A Bad Boy
A good friend of mine once told me that it’s the bad boys that always catch our eye. Apparently, it’s a risk we take for the chemistry. Actually… maybe it was Alexandra Burke who said that. But still, it’s true.
Why is it that us ladies love a bad boy, even though we know that in the end, it’s going to blow up in our pretty little faces? We can’t resist a man with a spontaneous, self-dependent and powerful nature. These qualities are our kryptonite and every guy who possesses them automatically becomes desirable.
We’ve all been there, don’t even try and deny it. He doesn’t return your texts or calls; he rarely shows emotions and pretty much treats you like crap. Yet something keeps you going back for more. You don’t know why but his I-don’t-give-a-shit attitude has the opposite effect on you and the less he cares the more you want him.
We become no smarter than a dog, running head first into oncoming traffic to catch a shiny red ball. So what the hell is it that gets us so hooked? What is it that makes seemingly intelligent girls ignore all the signs that point to trouble and just go for it?
There has to be a reasonable explanation! There are the best five reasons I could come up with, to explain this behaviour:
1. The chase
We love it. Women spend their whole romantic lives complaining that men love the chase too much, but really we’re just as bad. We love the mystery behind a guy’s confident persona, it baffles you that he’s so detached and the mind games keep us on our toes and wanting more.
Of course at some point we all come to the classic point where we decide to play the game too. “I’m not texting him first again, he can get in touch or he can sod off” which lasts for about three minutes until we realise that he isn’t acting unfazed. He just is.
2. The thrill of taming him
We all love the idea of being THAT girl that will change him. Somehow we will have enough power to turn the ‘bad’ into good. Well, let me save you a lot of wasted time and energy, it’s not going to happen folks.
Bad boys, are just super-hot guys, who know they have a lot of options (of which you are just one). You might think that if you play the game correctly, you might get the outcome you want, but what you don’t realise, is that there are probably many, many more contestants than you think.
3. He’s no pushover
The fact that he will not be walked all over is admirable and appealing to us. It makes us feel protected! It makes him seem like a real man that will not take any rubbish from anyone (not even from you).
4. He’s the best we can get
We make ourselves believe that we don’t need a guy to be there for us or treat us well. Plus “all men are the same anyway… who says the next one will be any better?!” Correction, all the men you go for are the same.
Okay so he doesn’t need to shower you with diamonds and call you a princess, but if he doesn’t treat you like his girl then there’s no hope. Bad boys are sexy, but better to admire them from afar!
5. Bad boys are wild (in and out of the bedroom)
This means we will never get bored. Not only will our own wild side come out more often, but there will never be a dull moment. It’s a thrill that you get addicted to and then hooked on until he decides to call it quits.
We get it; you don’t want a bad boy. You want a bad boy who is going to be good for you. Because you’re different, you’re special, you’re… in need of a reality check.
If the above points are sounding a little too familiar, then run for the hills and thank me later. Trust me the chase is great, but it’s even greater when they’re chasing you.