How To Flirt
Flirting isn’t an art form; if anything it’s more of a science (chemistry to be exact). I have been called a natural flirt myself, though sometimes I wonder if politeness is just so rare these days it often gets mistaken for flirting. Whether that’s the case or not, I tend to make guys think I’m interested, even when I am most definitely not.
I’m not a tease; my flirtatiousness towards people is all subconscious, I just love talking and interacting with people, whether it’s a stranger on the train to work (I know that’s bad right? They could be a psycho!) or someone from the office, I always love a good chat, (flirt?)
It just proves that giving someone the right kind of attention can spark off fireworks (even if it is just in their head). So because of my, dare I say it ‘flirty ways’ I have comprised a list of my top 5 flirting habits, because if I can do it without even noticing, so can you. It’s so simple you’ll flirt your way into dating success without even realising it:
1. The Chat
if ya ain’t got it then get it. Casual, playful chat is essential you need to be able to talk about anything and laugh with anyone. A guy will always be attracted to a girl that can talk the talk, so get practising. Laugh at yourself if you have to – just show you have positive energy by chatting away about anything. Plus great conversation is one way to have him staring at your lips, without you having to post duck imitation photos onto Instagram.
2. Eye contact
without this you’re set to fail. Nothing and I mean nothing shines more confident than a woman that can maintain eye contact – it makes you more attractive than any amount of makeup could. Practice in the mirror if that’s what it takes. Get your bedroom eyes ready, because one stare may lead to another. Though for the record, there’s a fine balance between maintaining eye contact and forcing it. Looking him in the eye whilst you’re chatting away: yes. Staring at him over your laptop screen while he’s trying to eat his lunch: definitely not. Nobody wants to feel like they’ve got a stalker. Less is more. Get it right.
3. Body language
This can say a thousand words and make someone feel connected to you! So make sure your body shows how you’re feeling and is sending out all the right signals. A bit of touching wouldn’t go amiss. Though we don’t want a sexual harassment suit thrown your way, I’m talking graze of the shoulder type thing, not squeeze of the thigh.
4. Damsel in distress syndrome
Ask for his help, or even for his opinion (guys love to think they’re useful) – knowing that he is able to assist you will make him feel good. Maybe even get him to do some heavy lifting, he’ll feel strong and manly and it’s a double whammy because you get to gawp at him working those muscles. (Plus you finally get that box that’s been sat in the corner moved to its right place). Everyone wins.
5. Compliment him
This will get you far, men love receiving a good compliment. So make sure the guy knows what you like about him – his shirt, his eyes – just don’t overdo it, you do not want him to think you’re desperate. Be sincere but subtle and he will love it!
And that’s a wrap folks. Told you, it’s as easy as pie. Do it right and a bit of flirting can be fun as well as seductive. Everyone can flirt, but not everyone can flirt well. If your current method of man-seduction isn’t working for you, then you need to contemplate ditching the hair flicking, stop liking all his Facebook pictures and just stick to our 5 flirting tips. Do as we say and you’ll be cranking your love life up by more than one notch.
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