Being Told You “Can’t” Should Be Your Motivation For Success
Call it reverse psychology, call it childhood rebellion which we never really grew out of, call it what you like. Truth is that the moment we’re told we can’t do something we want to prove we can.
I know what you’re thinking; classic male ego, show off, most likely a dickhead. Only two of those three stand to be true, but I’ll you decide which one for yourselves. The fact is being told ‘no’ is the single biggest motivating factor going on this giant football we call Earth.
Why is this? Surely, people are just looking out for your best interests when they tell you that you’re incapable of doing these things. They just want to see you spared the embarrassment of your impending failure. Maybe, you’re just shit at something and should stop wasting your time.
NO HOUSE! Just no.
There’s an argument that says if you repeat something for 10,000 hours, you’ll eventually become an expert in it. Reckon you’ve got the time?
To be quite frank, if you actually have 10,000 hours spare time on your hands, what the fuck are you doing with your life? You’ve either gone seriously wrong or seriously right somewhere down the line, I’m not sure which.
If you don’t have that kind of time for trial and error don’t worry. You might be amazing at something the first time round or it might take a few goes, but if you don’t give it a go then it’ll stay as mere potential.
If you don’t do something then it won’t get done, that’s how the universe works. If you get told ‘no’ why should that stop you? That is, unless that “no” is coming from a woman. Then definitely stop… there’s a word for that and a sentence as well as a conviction. Just don’t go there.
The bottom line is, if you want to do something, just do it. Criticism is something that will make you better but a flat ‘no’ is something that shouldn’t deter you from anything. Give it a go and live with the comfort that the worst thing that can happen, is you fail.
Get better, come back, show them what you can do. Don’t be a dick about it, though. No one likes that guy.
There is however, always room for a victory dance.